There are many times in our lives where we get frustrated with our results. The voice in our head berates us for not reaching the next goal. With thoughts like, “I knew you couldn’t do it!” …..”See you are a loser!” …..”You don’t deserve happiness!” …..”Why do you think you are good enough to have such a great outcome!”…….”He is way better at that than you!”…..
These voices can drive us crazy and magnify any self-doubt we may already have. Our inner critic torments us with failures of the past.
While there is a theory that the inner critic speaking harshly can drive us to more success, usually that kind of self-criticism is damaging and ineffective.
The inner voice is only as good as the experiences and beliefs that have been formed in your past. These beliefs have embedded in your subconscious mind and it runs on autopilot. When we create a new goal for ourselves, a signal is sent to the subconscious mind that there are some changes a foot. If we haven’t spent enough time building the image of what that change will look like for us, the board of directors will swing to the rescue and dredge up the failures in your life and run them through your mind like it was happening all over again. As their belief is the old vision is the truth. They will defend the image that is already held.
Is that really the truth?
Are you not worthy of success in all areas of your life?
Our current results are merely a reflection of our past thoughts, feelings, emotions and actions. Even if we have pushed the old memories down, believing we have buried them for good, they will still pull our strings or push our buttons. Creating more disillusion in our life.
If your results are beginning to show a pattern, maybe it is time to retrain your board of directors. As in most cases they are working from old knowledge and are pretty entrenched in certain ways of doing things. This way of life becomes such an embedded habit that you are not aware that you are doing it.
What is a Board of Directors?
A board of directors is a collection of individuals trying to operate as a group, to bring about the mission of the organisation, keeping the vision on path. Each member is assigned an area to take care of. Functioning as a group is something many people are not comfortable with. So each board evolves with its own culture. Each culture is dictated by the backgrounds and experience of the individuals on the board.
The inner critics are our board of directors in our mind. There is one assigned to each area of our life. Health, Wealth, Relationships, Spirituality etc. The organisation is our life, us as an individual.
We have memories coming together to form our beliefs or paradigms, and the more we experience life for the good or bad the more these are shaped. So when we have a desire to earn more money, the treasurer of the board pops up their head and says things to keep us on track with the current vision we hold. We may hear….. “it is greedy to have too much money!”…..or “you are not worth that kind of money!”….”what have you got to offer anyway!”…..”Women are supposed to stay home and look after the kids!”……..or if a new relationship is coming onto the horizon the secretary of the board will pop up and say things like, “oh they are way to good for you!”…”they will probably leave you like the last one!”……”You are not worthy of love!”….
It is important to have all areas of our life in harmony, as to not create confusion for the board. If there is confusion there is a crazy mind, a mind of disharmony, restlessness, anxiety and maybe depression.
The board has your best interest at heart and always wants to keep you safe, keep you on the path of your vision and mission statement. If you find the board is out of alignment with what you want to achieve now, it may well be time to retrain them.
Most of us unavoidably acquired limiting or self-sabotaging beliefs that were downloaded into our subconscious minds when we were children. A child’s perceptions of the world are directly downloaded into the subconscious during the first 6-8 years of life, without discrimination and without filters of the analytical self-conscious mind as it is not fully operational during this time. Consequently our fundamental perceptions about life and our role in it are learned without our having the capacity to choose or reject those beliefs. Since the subconscious mind controls about 95% of our behaviour, other people essentially program our lives.
Just know there is nothing whatsoever wrong with you. You can change!
You just need to reformat the hard drive of your mind, clear out the old junk, the old programs that no longer serve you, and add a new upgraded software package. Include all the new functions, new beliefs so that it isn’t in conflict with your goals and dreams. Just like a computer running an old operating system like Windows 95 for example, and trying to successfully load and operate Office 2010. It becomes very frustrating and inefficient. In most cases it just wont work. You need an updated operating system to get your programs to run effectively.
With 2015 on the horizon take some time to check in with yourself.
What is your Inner Critic telling you?
Is it in Alignment with your Goals and Dreams?
Transform Your Inner Critic into An Inner Coach, have your Board propel you forward, instead of holding you back.
Create the life that you desire. Beliefs are formed by repetition, both negative and positive.
Which beliefs will you choose to reprogram?
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